A word about CBT

Cock and ball torture (CBT) is another popular form of kink play which involves tormenting the male genitals. Don’t let the word “torture” scare you away. The whole experience can just be mild and playful with activities like restraint and tickle torture. A scene can also develop into a full blown mistreatment encounter including participation in ballbusting and flogging, if that is what you desire.

The level of intensity is always up to you and your play partner. If you’re eager for some intense experiences, be sure to take things slowly to start with, especially with new partners, and take the time to find someone experienced.

It can be whole lot of fun for a sadistic Dom to restrain and play with a sub’s cock. A submissive may get enjoyment from the physical experience or purely from knowing that the sadist Dom is being pleased by the play. If you are the bottom, just remember, you always have the right to communicate your desires with your Dominant and to use safe words.

Whilst male Dominants can use their own experiences of sensations as a guide, this is never a true indication. Something that might be pleasurable to the Dominant’s penis may be very painful for the sub. So whether the Top is a Man or Woman, keep the lines of communication open with this play. This is especially important during the first few times you play together.

CBT BDSM Contract

Some couples like to sign a contract before they play together. Here is a CBT clause you can use for this purpose. It has been worded to suit the Dominant/submissive BDSM Contract however you can alter it any way you like, add wording and delete terms you do not wish to include:

The Dominant and the submissive wish to engage in cock and ball play together in accordance with the terms as set out herein.

Permitted elements

The Dominant may use any of the following CBT techniques on the submissive:

Rope bondage
Ball busting
Bandage bondage
Sensation implements
Tickle torture
Wax play

The submissive is open to the following equipment being used on him: Her hands, rope, ball stretcher, ball crusher, parachute, wooden clothespins, toothbrush, testicle cuffs, mushroom brush, elastic bandages.

If the Dominant wishes to use other fantasy elements, She agrees to discuss such use beforehand with the submissive.

Alternatively, if you wish to hand over all control to the Dominant, then you may write:

The Dominant may use any form of CBT on the submissive in His absolute discretion, subject to the submissive’s hard limits as follows: ______________________________________.


The parties acknowledge that CBT has risks involved and can cause permanent injury if care is not taken. The parties wish to commence with ‘lighter’ methods of play and gradually work their way up to more elaborate activities.

The Dominant agrees to take great care for the safety of sub’s genitals. In particular:

  • The submissive boy shall have the ultimate say through the use of a safeword in matters of pain and sensation.
  • If the sub wishes to cease the activity he will call out the following safe word: __________________.
  • If the sub has apprehensions but still wishes to continue, he shall raise his concerns by addressing Mistress by Her real name first. During all other times, he shall address Her as “Mistress”.


The Dominant would like to disclose that He/She has the following experience with CBT:
Techniques: _____________________________________
Years: _______________________________________

Example Specific CBT Technique Clause

Not many people will write down exactly how the scene will proceed. Such detail isn’t usually involved in a BDSM Contract, however if you would like to stipulate something in writing, here is an example:

The submissive is particularly interested in having his cock bound and immobilized. The Dominant shall use a nine foot long braided nylon rope. She shall wrap the rope around the sub’s cock several times whilst looping intermittently behind his balls. The coils shall be tight enough to stretch the genital skin away from the body but not too tight to constrict blood flow. The Dominant agrees to take care not to pinch the skin. A knot shall be used to tie the ends of the rope, leaving several feet of rope remaining.

The Dominant may use any means of torture play with the submissive’s erect and bound cock including on the head and shaft of the penis and the boy’s balls. She may use any sensation implement in Her discretion including but not limited to light brushing and scouring. Mistress has total control and absolute decision making power in what implements to use.

The sub is particularly enthusiastic about experiencing the use of: soft and hard bristle brushes, shaving brushes, feathers and nylon scouring pads.

The Dominant agrees to take care not to cause any abrasion or tearing to the boy’s skin.

You do not need to have a clause written down to participate in CBT, however just make sure you keep everything safe, sane and consensual.

What next?

Ready to create your own personalized Contract?  Here are some tools to get you started: