Creating a Perfect Day in Your BDSM Lifestyle
Why design a perfect day for your BDSM dynamic?
When starting out in kinky relationships, many of us have high or unrealistic expectations of what a power exchange dynamic looks like.
Many dream of being in an ongoing state of erotic charge, constantly wearing kinky outfits or shackled to furniture all day long.
It’s just not realistic or practical.
So, when you find yourself mostly engaging vanilla activities you may start to question your power dynamic.
Of course, there are steps you can take to amp up your power exchange.
BUT, first consider this possibility…
Do things seem mundane, perhaps, because you are too stressed or busy with other aspects of your life?
Is your attention focused on trying to find novelty, rather than being present?
Perhaps you now overlook the simple interactions that used to bring you joy?
There’s a concept called “hedonic adaptation” – which claims that as pleasures become familiar, they lose their ability to deliver joy.
The thing is….
Doing things over and over doesn’t make them boring.
We lose […]