A BDSM Contract is a very personal and sexy way to negotiate and formalize your power exchange relationship. Every agreement will look different, depending on the parties’ tastes and desires.
Here are some ways you can present your rules:
- A handwritten and signed pledge from your submissive;
- A simple list of rules and protocols;
- A detailed document with terms and conditions outlining every aspect of the relationship.
Having a Contract can add a touch of formality and structure to your dynamic.
Some like to be extravagant and very particular about their Contract. It is seen as a cherished symbol of their bond, just like the collar.
Need help putting one together? Use our detailed BDSM Contract to help guide you.
Real Life BDSM Contract Examples and Ideas
If you have been looking at creating your Contract, below are some ideas and examples for your inspiration.
These are the winners of our recent photo contest. They were so great, we just had to share them with you here!
BDSM Contract Idea – Photo and Clauses by Master Burgess and His Submissive
We recognize Dom/sub power play as an exciting shared intimate experience allowing for free expression, exploration and development of trusting emotional and psychological bonds to each another.
In an otherwise equal power relationship, collaring will immediately change the power dynamic which may be exited upon removal of the collar.
Time will tell if this power dynamic shift will apply to more aspects of life and how it becomes generally accepted.
Page 3 reads
Availability of the submissive
15) The submissive shall assume the submissive role and make herself available to the Dominant during the following times:
(a) When wearing a designated submissive collar
Schedule 5 reads
The rules, clauses, and content detailed in this Contract will be in effect when the submissive has donned or is preparing to don a designated submissive collar
Commands issued by the Dominant while the submissive is wearing a designated submissive collar which extend naturally into periods while the submissive is not wearing a designated submissive collar will continue to apply and be treated by the submissive with the expected attention/behavior as detailed in this Contract allowing for additional discussion without judgement or threat of punishment.
BDSM Contract Example – A slave’s Pledge to his Mistress
This is a picture of the pledge My slave sent Me when we decided to have a more involved relationship. Nothing too detailed as we have been talking about rules on a regular basis and continue to do so.
I love the fact that it is hand-written as it gives it a certain aspect of authenticity, I know there has been a little bit more effort put into this than in a document I would have written myself for my slave to sign.
~ Goddess Indy
Ideas for our BDSM Contract – by Sir Michael and Kitten
These are some photos of your template’s cover page which we printed out and had a little play with. We are going through your contract. It’s very thorough and enjoyable.
Negotiations have been super fun so far. We would like to have it hard bound with your princess pink cover design. It is exquisite and exactly what we wanted! Hope you enjoy the photos.
This one has the contract nested in pink angel wings, symbolizing that He has taken me under His wing (a symbol of protection).
Please note that having a Contract is completely optional.
You may decide not to have an agreement in writing and simply go with the flow. That’s completely okay as well.
Although, we do recommend at least having an initial in-depth conversation plus regular discussions and check-ins.
This ensures you are in agreement and aware of each other’s expectations. Going over a Contract can help you do this, even if you never end up signing one.