If you’re thirsty for knowledge or need some help, here are some fantastic sources you can turn to. It’s always a good idea to expand your knowledge in the world of BDSM, especially if you are just starting out. Research as much as you can and always remember to stay safe, sane and consensual. Don’t allow yourself to be forced into anything you don’t want to do and never put off reaching out for help.
Online Classes & Workshops
Check out our new Kink Training.
Local Classes & Workshops
View the list here.
Podcasts
Kuldrin’s Krypt – With over 20 years in the BDSM community and the mental health field Master Kuldrin has gained a unique understanding and respect for the alternative lifestyle.
Erotic Awakening – Every week, get to know international presenters and power exchange experts Dan & dawn as they bring you an aspect of erotic life – from “how to” sessions by well known instructors; interviews with highly regarded experts and presenters; event reviews from around the nation; to all of their erotic adventures!
Loving BDSM – cute Daddy Dom & submissive babygirl couple giving advice on all things D/s & kink.
The People of Kink (TPOK) – Live interviews with real people of the BDSM lifestyle. Real People, Real Kink. Open and honest talk about everything kink (unfortunately, this podcast has been discontinued and removed).
Books
- Different Loving: The world of of Sexual Dominance and Submission, Gloria Brame, William Brame and John Jacobs, Villard 1996 (Softcover), 1993 (Hardcover).
- Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM, Gloria G. Brame & William D. Brame, Moons Grove Press 2015
- SM101: A Realistic Introduction 2nd Ed, Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press 1996
- Extreme Space: The Dominance and Submission Handbook, FRR Mallory, Unbound Books 1998
- Erotic Bondage Handbook, Jay Wiseman, Greenery Press 2000
- The Master’s Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance, Jack Rinella, Daedalus Publishing Company 1994
- The Mistress Manual, Mistress Lorelei, Greenery Press 2000
- The Art of Sensual Female Dominance, Claudia Varrin, Citadel 2000
- How to be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM, Morpheous, Green Candy Press 2008
- BDSM The Naked Truth, Dr Charley Ferrer, Institute of Pleasure 2011
- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, Tristan Taormino, Cleis Press 2012
- The Story of O: A Novel, Pauline Reage, Ballantine Books 2013
- Why am I kinky?, Stevan Vogel, Odd Light Bulb Press 2015 – a book giving theories about BDSM while avoiding linking to social mores or gender expectations.
Professionals
- Kink Aware Professionals – resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality.
- KTCI (Kink Therapy Certification Institute) – kink aware education and certification class for therapists.
Web
- Fetlife – free social network for the BDSM & fetish community. Similar to Facebook and MySpace but run by kinksters.
- BDSM Event page – list of fetish, leather & BDSM events and groups.
- National Coalition for Sexual Freedom – NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.
- The Eulenspeigel Society – TES is a not-for-profit BDSM / Leather / Fetish group dedicated to the social interaction, educational exchange, and ever-changing diversity of our community.
- ClubFEM – a social organization composed of individuals who want to develop sincere Female dominant/male submissive relationships.
Erotic Art
Christopher Mooney’s Erotic Art – erotic works reflecting both kinky and/or fantasy based poses and classical cuddling and kissing scenes.
Toys & Equipment
The Kinkery – handcrafted BDSM toys, implements and other kinky stuff.
Hustler Hollywood – where you can see and buy the most popular adult novelties and best sex toys online. Check out their Bondage & BDSM blog.
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