Mistress with handcuffsBondage is the most renowned form of kinky play. It can range from simple restraint positions such as tied to bed or tied doggy to more elaborate setups including hogtie and Karada. There can be an incredible sense of enjoyment for both Mistress and slave when engaging in restraint. Senses are heightened, awakening otherwise forbidden fantasies.

There are endless possibilities with this sexual art. With such a vast variety what may be fun for one couple may turn out to be an average or even frustrating experience for others. The key to getting the most out of your encounter is knowing why you are interested in bondage in the first place, why is it hot for you?

Focusing on this will help you create amazing scenes to accommodate your tastes and desires. For example, some slaves just want to give up responsibility whilst others yearn to be romantically helpless, erotically humiliated or they just love the feel of leather/rope on the skin. As for Mistress is She looking for control or to express her sensual creativity or something else? Thinking about why bondage appeals to You/you will help in choosing techniques, scenarios and equipment.

Bondage BDSM Contract

When incorporating restraint into your Contract, here is some wording for your consideration:

Please note the following clause has been drafted specifically for the Mistress/slave BDSM contract. You may change the wording to suit your contract.

Mistress and slave have a mutual interest in and agree to explore the art of bondage play together. All play will be conducted in accordance with the goals, terms and conditions set out herein. Parties may make mutual amendments to this clause at any time. All changes must be agreed upon and signed by both Mistress and slave.

Goals

The parties wish to express their personal fascination with restraint as follows:

Mistress: _______________________________________________________________________________________________
slave: __________________________________________________________________________________________________

The objectives outlined above are to be kept in mind when planning scenes and during all bondage scenes.

Designing scenes

This clause can be as general or as specific as you like. For example:
•    All bondage scenarios shall be at the discretion of Mistress having regard to parties’ goals as outlined above, or
•    Each Tuesday evening Mistress and slave shall research and plan a new bondage scene for Friday’s scene. Prior to the scene the parties will use the time to purchase necessary tools, to prepare themselves mentally and to practice the techniques if needed.

Types of Bondage

Mistress and slave wish to engage in the following types of restraint: ________________________________.

Alternatively: subject to the limits specified herein (if any), the submissive is open to experiencing any and all bondage play with Domina in Her absolute discretion.

Specific clause example:

Breast Bondage for female slaves

Mistress may tie the base of slave’s breasts with rope until they become round, firm and lifted. The same rope may be used for both breasts to create a front harness.  The rope may be fixed behind slave’s back, imitating a bra. The play can be combined with breast or nipple pumps and/or nipple bondage. Once the breasts/nipples are bound, Mistress may use the extra sensitivity to stimulate, torture or pleasure the slave in any way She pleases including nipple torture, subject to the following conditions:
•    Mistress agrees not to continue tight breast bondage for longer than ten (10) minutes.
•    If slave’s breasts begin to turn blue or pale, Mistress agrees to discontinue play immediately.
•    Nipples may be tied at the base with rope or ribbon for no longer than fifteen (15) minutes.
•    To avoid pain or tearing of skin Mistress agrees to remove ribbons slowly and carefully.

The same drafting style may be used to create similar clauses for other types of bondage such as leg, genital, fantasy role playing, sensory deprivation and body positioning during orgasm. How detailed You/you wish to be with your contract is a personal choice. Some people feel more comfortable if every detail is spelled out precisely, others are just happy to leave everything in Misstress’s capable and trusting hands. If You/you prefer to be precise, state in detail what the top is allowed to perform and how and the specific precautions which must be taken.

Limits

The parties will not engage in the following bondage play unless mutually agreed otherwise: ______________________________________________.

Equipment

Mistress shall provide and prepare all tools, toys and safety equipment for every scene including ropes, leather, metal, spandex, latex, PVC, rubber, caster plaster, duct tape, plastic wrap, bandages and wood. Bondage materials may be combined with the use of a leash, spreader bar, furniture, mouth gag, ear plugs, blind fold and/or other accessories as mutually agreed by the parties.

Safety

Mistress agrees to abide by the principles of safe, sane and consensual at all times including but not limited to:
•    Keeping a pair of scissors (preferably EMT shears with rounded tips) and at least two spare keys for any handcuffs or chastity devices within reach at all times
•    When using multiple padlocks Mistress shall arrange to use locks with identical keys
•    Researching and buying the correct equipment taking into consideration correct sizing
•    Ceasing any activity immediately upon slave using the safe word or safe signal

Mistress has the right to cease play at any time by calling out Her safeword. Following a bondage scene the parties agree to provide each other with appropriate aftercare including:
•    Talking about the scene/being quiet
•    Cuddling/time together/alone time
•    Leaving cleanup for later/putting away tools immediately
•    Refreshments/treats

Your Clauses

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